CO-Parenting

When emotions run high, especially during or after a divorce, it’s easy to get caught up in the words being said. A mother may feel hurt and betrayed learning that her ex-husband met with a psychotherapist without her knowledge. She might even label him as a liar. But in family therapy, the truthfulness of the story isn't the main concern. What truly matters is the emotional need behind the words.

Whether it’s a parent, a child, or a teenager, the focus in therapy isn’t about who is right or wrong. Instead, it’s about understanding what the person is really asking for. If someone shares misinformation or twists a story, it doesn't make the therapist's job harder—it actually reveals something important. The therapist listens to understand the emotional need beneath the story.

For example, an ex-husband might complain that his daughter feels sad and blame his ex-wife for being critical or controlling. While his words may be emotionally charged or even misleading, the core issue is his daughter's emotional well-being. The therapist's role is not to judge the story but to guide the father in supporting his child—perhaps by encouraging him to listen more deeply, offer encouragement, and provide positive reinforcement. This approach is essential for improving child mental health and fostering emotional support for children during challenging times.

In therapy, it’s not the story that holds power—it’s the need behind it. By focusing on emotional needs rather than content, healing and growth become possible for everyone involved. Family therapy can be a vital tool for navigating divorce, managing post-divorce family dynamics, and improving co-parenting relationships.

If you're struggling with co-parenting challenges, therapy for divorced parents and co-parenting counseling can help uncover the real needs and build stronger family connections. Book a session today and take the first step toward healing and positive parenting after separation.